Low self-esteem, and how to raise it


Kelly Nam

Rosi Jaime from “Solutions for Families” was the main speaker and she outlined the characteristics of low self-esteem. It was noted that someone with low self-esteem always needs affirmation from others. Photo credit: Kelly Nam

Kelly Nam, Staff Writer

“If you trust yourself, opportunities will come your way.”

On Thursday, Career Service of Cerritos College sponsored a self-esteem workshop.

Rosi Jaime from “Solutions 4 Families” was the main speaker.

“All of us are human beings with flaws. Self-esteem is how we value ourselves and how we perceive our value to the world. Not every everyone is going to like you,” Jaime said.

Rosi expanded on what makes somebody have low self-esteem.

It could be from childhood with parents that may have spoken down on you, or even certain moments in life where people have said negative things about you.

She outlined the characteristics of someone with low self-esteem:

  • negative view of life
  • perfectionist attitude
  • mistrusting others
  • blaming others for what happens to ourselves
  • fear of taking risks
  • feelings of being unloved and unlovable
  • dependence- letting others make decisions for us
  • fear of being ridiculed.

The audience was told to list some hurtful things they heard from people.

Rosi directed everyone to rip up the piece of paper and throw it away in a trash bin in the classroom.

If people dwell negative thoughts, it prevents someone from reaching their goal.

Rosi stated, “Take responsibilities from reaching goals. Things only come to those to try. Don’t blame others for bad things happening to you because you can’t control anybody, only yourself.”

Someone with low self-esteem always needs affirmations from others.

“If you care too much about others’ thoughts, you’ll always end up trying to please everyone,” Rosi said.

Shannon Estrada with the re-entry program at Cerritos College expressed, “I’ve been around negative people and it drains me out. Rather then focusing on the negative, I try to see the positive side in everything.”

This all comes to the fact that if you’re a negative person, people won’t want to be around you.

On another note, Rosi recommends to remind ourselves everyday to be thankful for what we have.

“Take time to appreciate what you have simple things like a toilet, working water, your organs and health.”

To be more positive, we can all start by having a thankful attitude.

Tatiana Martinez, child development major said, “I think knowing that I do have self-worth, I’m not going to let people influence me negatively.”

Once one improves their self-esteem, a person will be able to help lift others up as well.