Playing The Game: Situationships

Bianca Hull and Kianna Znika

The beginning of a relationship is a tricky thing, having to grasp what are the do’s and don’t’s for your new partner can sometimes be a hard thing to grasp, but even trickier than that is the commonly known situationship.

A situationship as defined by Urban Dictionary is “a relationship that has no label on it… like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.”

Being in a new space with a completely different and new person can be foreign but having to add the twist of not fully knowing what the relationship is can make things even more difficult.

At some point or another, we have all experienced a situationship regardless of whether we would like to call it that or just chose to say that it was nothing.

Most people have experienced a time when the person we were dating didn’t fully want to commit or even we ourselves didn’t want to commit.

The important thing to understand about situationships is that they are almost always temporary, but if you’re the person who is on the receiving end of the situationship, time can feel like it’s slowly moving because you just want a relationship title or even a friends with benefits title if relationships just aren’t your thing.

It’s always best to lay down the law when dealing with someone who wants to keep the relationship a situationship and let the expectations be known.

If that person really cares for the other they will make it known and make the change but it’s also important to realize that rushing someone into a relationship isn’t best either.

The best way to approach a person who wants to put someone in a situationship is to ask them what their intentions for the future are.

If they have no plans of moving forward with their supposed lover then it’s best to call it quits before it ends terribly.

Situationships should never be something that someone has intentionally put you in.

When someone intentionally puts another person in a situationship they didn’t care for them from the get-go and they consider the whole situation a game.

The dating world is hard and can be very confusing for many people. Just having to get to know someone who makes you completely nervous because they are probably going to be seeing the most intimate parts of the human body can be extremely nerving wrecking.

So being stuck in position where you have to be that vulnerable with someone who doesn’t even know what they want just isn’t worth the time.

Be upfront with the person you’re interested in and set a standard because that’s what playing the game is all about.