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Dealing with the loss of a parent

Isaiah Lonvelin
Photo of Anita Lonvelin who passed away after a 5 year battle sickle cell leukemia. She is survived by her two sons.

Losing a parent is the toughest thing a person can go through in their life, and if you are someone going through this; it is okay that you are sad.

Let it out!

Cry, scream, stay in bed, be sad, mourn. There is no set date to just get over it and in reality you are never going to be.

You have to let yourself fully experience the loss you’re going through.

You handle it how you want too, because that is someone you loved with all your heart, the person that raised you to be the person you are today.

The person that loved you unconditionally, is no longer going to be on your journey so you have every right to feel down and mourn your loved one.

It is an emotional suffering that you are going through that people will realize, so do not try to hide and say that you are “fine.”

Talk about how you feel, never bottle up your emotions during that state because it will eat you from the inside.

If you are a person that doesn’t like expressing their emotions, you will start too. But you have no reason not to, it is okay to let people see you mourn in whatever way you choose too.

Some ways you can mourn is to talk about your loved one, share your memories of them, and hear other people tell their stories of your parents as you will cherish your memory of them and others as well.

Never be alone, be in the presence of loved ones whether it be with your family, spouse, or friends. It will help you in the long run having another presence with you.

Give yourself time to recover, you do not need to rush back to work or school as it will be extremely hard to do so.

Take time and most importantly pay attention to your health.

Keep doing things in your life to get yourself through the day wether that’s doing your favorite activates like shopping, hiking, going out to eat, or even staying in and watching a movie.

It is always a good thing to have a self-care day for yourself to get your mind right on track to tackle whatever life throws at you.

Nobody knows you better than you; so you need to be open about your feelings.

A way that you can cope with your feelings is to pick up a new hobby which can take your mind off being sad and depressed. Learn a new language, write, design something. Anything you want there is a world of opportunities to learn something.

In the end just remember there is no right or set amount of time to mourn after your loss. Take as much time needed, and always remember not to rush back into whatever you have going on.

Give yourself time and pay attention to your own health. No matter what your feelings are validated and important, never stop and live your life to the fullest.

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About the Contributor
Isaiah Lonvelin, Co-Sports Editor
Isaiah Lonvelin is the sports co-editor for Talon Marks. He plans on transferring to Cal State Long Beach or Cal State Fullerton to pursue a Bachelor’s in journalism. He enjoys watching baseball and football.
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