About 100 Falcons attended one of the Women’s History Month workshops, Marriage: Who’s got the power?

The event that was held on Thursday and dealt with boyfriend and girlfriend relationships as well as marriages.

The workshop was held by sociology instructor, Amy Holzgang and economics instructor, Diane Keenan.

To start the discussion, Keenan began telling her story.

She said that at 22 she married a guy who was good looking, athletic and was going to eventually get an MBA in Business.

“But the night of our wedding, he screamed at me and he became very possessive,” she said.

During the presentation the students were advised that when it comes to relationships you must get to know your partner and get to see all the sides of their personality.

At various times the attendees were asked to pair up with the person next to them to discuss with their partner, “Who should pay what in relationships?” then the instructors asked for their opinions.

Some students said that the male should always pay everything even if the women do the asking and other students said that it should be split by the two.

Keenan went on to explain who has the “power” in relationships.

“The person who is less involved in the relationship will have more power,” she said.

Psychology student, Cindy Guzman said, “I think she’s right [Keenan.] In my own past relationships when it was time to get out of them, it was always the person who didn’t care as much and was less involved [in the relationship] who left less hurt and got over it faster.

Keenan also said that the person who is more attractive to the opposite sex will have more options than the person who is not as attractive.

During the workshop, it was also said that 91 percent of college students want an equal say in making decisions in relationships, but in reality the number of students who actually have an equal say is around 40 percent.

Holzgang discussed that in relationships there are various issues that have to be discussed.

After getting partnered up once again, the question was: what major decisions should have to be discussed before going into a marriage?

According to the student attendants the most important issues were religion, the last name the woman will be taking, money issues, spending habits (including credit card debts), and sex and kids.

It was advised that these things should be bargained between the couple.

“Although you should marry someone with similar interests, the reality is that you probably wont,” Keenan said.

Keenan said that she was once told, “Don’t do anything in the beginning that you don’t want to do for the rest of your life.”

To finish the workshop, they emphasized that although marriage is difficult and scary, it is worth it and it requires a lot of change from both people.

“I came for extra credit for one of my classes and I thought I was going to dread it but it was very informative and they provided me with a lot of information that I will definitely will remember when it comes down to getting married,” said Michael Boones, teaching major.